Hello my lovelies!!
I just wanna say, firstly, I am so sorry for being so absent, and THANK YOU so much to all of those who have kept visiting 😉 Lots of love of kisses xoxoxoxoxo
But really, can a woman have it all?
And I don’t just mean working with kids. I mean, full career ladder, housewife goddess, perfect caring mum, genius cook, glamourous, ladylike, a loving girlfriend/fiancee/partner and contributing fully to the economy and society… while of course still being available for girly cocktails and a shoulder for friends to cry on! (Not to mention, while maintaining a healthy social networking life!) Can she?
I’m not so sure about being a caring mum yet, (however I really admire all you Mothers out there!) but I’ve been working really hard at all the others and may I tell you, it is very tiring! 😉
I’ve put together a few tips of what I’ve learned these last few weeks:
1. Accept that you don’t have to have it all RIGHT NOW.
A couple months ago, I had the ida I’d want to redo the whole house at once, while going for a career that would demand being away all week travelling, and still keeping the household together in warmth, and cleanliness! I learned to accept I can’t have it all at once. I’ve accepted that the house will be redone little by little, and this way I might actually appreciate/savour/perfect it even better.
2. If you plans to have children, choose a career you can still progress while away/working from home.
To dedicate the amount of time to all the others, I realised I had to choose a career in which eventually I can work from home. If you work from a company, communicate with your superiors about that, be honest, otherwise they will just expect you work the time that you don’t have. If you work for yourself or are starting your own business, make sure you work really hard to create a healthy customer database while you don’t have kids yet, or if you do, while they’re asleep, in nurser/school. You need to work extra hard, so you can savour that time you take off to spend with your kids, shopping or having cocktails with the girls! Have different back up plans and projects going on, and make notes! Plans always seem more real once you write them down! And while at it, build yourself a beautiful home office! 😀
3. Be organised. Multi-task.
Do what women do best. I use my time commuting to and from work to write down the dinner rota, and to update my to-do list. I recommend the BBC Good Food app if you find it hard to decide what to cook and it creates your shopping list from the recipes you select at the touch of a button. Set reminders to yourself. Use technology as your PA. I also put on a hair mask or scalp mask for 40-45 minutes and use that time to cook, or get a pedicure, hoover, the options are endless!
4. Always get enough (beauty) sleep.
It will help you keep focused and calm. And if you don’t, don’t let affect your judgement. Your loved ones and even yourself don’t deserve that you take it out on them (or on yourself).
5. Stay healthy.
Take vitamins. Always, always drink lots of water. Take B vitamins and eat as healthily as possible. Specially if you’re taking a lot coffee!
6. Set your priorities straight.
I had to give up my weekly friday blowdry to come home and make dinner. Sounds sad, I know. But I love it. It gives me great satisfaction when someone appreciates that extra house I spend in the kitchen for a extra special meal to start the weekend.
7. Always make time for yourself.
Don’t give up on that relationship you have with yourself. Nurture it. Pamper yourself. Your body and soul deserve it after all the work you put it through. Have a bubble bath, get a manicure (my favourite me-time 1), go to a spa every now and then (favourite me-time 2), or go shopping alone. 😉 And for your own skin’s sake, exfoliate as often as you can!
*My favourite scrubs of the moment. Essential to keep a beautiful skin on a busy schedule.
8. Make time for your loved one.
Keep the spark alive and work at it. No relationship will ever survive negligence. Show that special someone you still are the sexy goddess he fell in love with!
Note: I was very inspired by Louise Mensch’s article in Glamour this month. Read it if you get a chance!!
Lots of love,